Watch the video [and/or] read below to learn what steps I take to deal with this phrase. Also! I ask you some questions at the end of the video and at the bottom of this blog. If you are so inclined, I would love to see your comments below!
If you just…
used a calendar
had a system
(fill in the blank)
If you have been told If you just… chances are you are there is a certain amount of stress or struggle around school. You may be so overwhelmed that you don’t even know what the first step is to implement any of the above skills and/or you are so used to a certain pattern that you are in denial that any of the above skills are necessary to make a difference in you stressed out life…
I want to tell you two things:
At least part of your struggle is that you have internalized the voices that tell you you don’t have any of the above skills. IThe truth is, you probably practice at least a part of one of these skills. It doesn’t mean that aren’t gaps, but….
in order to be able to be successful at a skill you first have to stop and celebrate the parts of that skill that you already practice.
I was told I was disorganized over and over again and that all I needed was a “system.” Therefore, I assumed I didn’t have a system and stayed disorganized.
It wasn’t until I moved for the umpteenth time that I realized that I did have a system: I set my space up in the exact same way every time.
My system needed a lot of tweaking for sure (and I have to be VIGILANT about keeping my space clean because it does not come naturally), but first I had to stop and celebrate that indeed I was more organized than I thought I was.
This released a certain story around “failure and organization” allowing my mind to celebrate.
Only then, could I move on to the next question:what in my system needs to be tweaked so that I can feel less stress?
Please answer the following questions in the comments below:
What is the word or phrase that you hear after If you just…?”
What part(s)of that skillset do you already practice?
What needs to be tweaked?
As always if I can be of service please DO reach out.
In the video below you will notice that I am somewhat wet! Some of my greatest A-HA moments are realized while I am on my bike, or doing laps in the pool-or running (very slowly)-and this was no different! This is all about adaptability-how can you change something when the circumstances are not what you want or expected? After watching the video, I would love to hear any questions or any A-HA! moments you’ve had when the circumstances are different than what you wanted or expected….
So many of my students are so exhausted and stressed out when they come home from school..they take a nap and then find themselves up late again finishing their homework. Is that you as well? are In this video I show you a few very short, simple exercises to do before you start (or continue) to do your homework to help re-energize you before starting your homework.
After watching the video I would love to know: what do you do now to help energize yourself when you come home from school? Looking for more study tools and tips? Please feel free to reach out! I would love to talk with you.
Wondering how to prepare for finals? I was working with a student who said that he had so much homework he didn’t have time to study. I get it. It’s hard, as a student, when you are so used to be given a structure [homework] and then have to find your own structure for studying! Watch this video for tips on preparing for finals (and other tests). Then,comment below on how you are taking small active steps to make sure that you are prepared for test day!
Want to make sure that you stay in action? The accountability group may be perfect for you; a facilitated group for 9th and 10th graders in which students hold each other accountable for actions they want to complete throughout the week.
Contact me for more information! Also, I still have room in my Summer and Fall practice! I tend to fill up in October when students are already falling behind. Let’s talk about how we can put organizational and time management systems into place before the school year for a STRESSLESS beginning of the year.
Do you find yourself second guessing yourself after you’ve finished a test, project, or presentation…or sometimes maybe even obsessing about it? Watch this video for a tip on how to reflect after you’ve finished. How do you reflect? Let me know below!
Have trouble getting the first words of a first draft started? Do the words stay in your mind, until it’s perfect and then it’s 8pm before the final paper is due and your still staring at a blank page? Watch this video to find out about The Most Horrible First Draft Ever. Do you struggle with writing papers? Comment below about your struggles and strategies for getting started.
Do you have every intention of getting your homework and studying done as soon as you’re done with school? Then do you find yourself lost in the time warp of texting, youtube videos, and other distractions? Watch this video to learn how to minimize your distractions, get what you need to get done DONE, and still have a break!