If you just…

If you just..

Heard  this phrase before?

Watch the video [and/or] read below to learn what steps I take to deal with this phrase. Also! I ask you some questions at the end of the video and at the bottom of this blog. If you are so inclined, I would love to see your comments below!

If you just…

  • were organized
  • used a calendar
  • paid attention
  • studied
  • had a system
  • (fill in the blank)

If you have been told If you just… chances are you are there is a certain amount of stress or struggle around school. You may be  so overwhelmed that you don’t even know what the first step is to implement any of the above skills and/or you are so used to a certain pattern that you are in denial that  any of the above skills are necessary to make a difference in you stressed out life…

I want to tell you two things:

  1. At least part of your  struggle is that you have internalized the voices that tell you you don’t have any of the above skills. IThe truth is, you probably practice at least a part of one of these skills. It doesn’t mean that aren’t gaps, but….
  2. in order to be able to be successful at a skill you first have to stop and celebrate the parts of that skill that you already practice.  

My example:

I was told I was disorganized over and over again and that all I needed was a “system.” Therefore, I assumed I didn’t have a system and stayed disorganized.

It wasn’t until I moved for the umpteenth time that I realized that I did have a system: I set my space up in the exact same way every time.

My system needed a lot of tweaking for sure (and I have to be VIGILANT about keeping my space clean because it does not come naturally),  but first I had to stop and celebrate that indeed I was more organized than I thought I was.

This released a certain story around “failure and organization” allowing my mind to celebrate.

Only then, could I move on to the next question:what in my system needs to be tweaked so that I can feel less stress?

Please answer the following questions in the comments below:

What is the word or phrase that you hear after  If you just…?”

What part(s)of that skillset do you already practice?

What needs to be tweaked?

 As always if I can be of service please DO reach out.

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